Thursday, September 25, 2008

Memories

The only difference between you and I are our memories and one more important factor: which is how we interpret them.

Any number of bad or good experiences can come into our lives and influence them. But what becomes of us when it happens to us?

I cannot judge any person because, there are times that I've thought myself as a nice person but instances at times have proved that I am very much a flawed person.

So when I read about a friend stabbing his wife, who knows? There but for the grace of God go I.

Memories are also the reason why adults have a harder time, I think, learning something new, like computers, because a voice in their head has been programmed to scold them if they make a mistake, stunting them from trying new things with free abandon.

A child takes to a computer because there's no memory to scold them, no fear of failure, of being reprimanded for making a mistake or punishment.

Someone asked me, in an interview, how do I deal with difficult people. I replied something off my head from the book I was reading, "Becoming a person" that we should accept them and by accepting them it makes it easier to change them for them to change.

Thinking about it, I realize that I hardly use the term "difficult people". There's only problems. Because to the boss, his employees are difficult, but to the employees, the boss is the one being unreasonable.

And what is the difference between me and "difficult people"? Only our memories, our experience and our perspective. So in order to solve problems communication in understanding others is important. Remember Stephen R. Covey's 5th habit, "Seek first to understand and then to be understood."

It's very interesting, because this is where theology and psychology overlap. Who am I before God? My talents are not mine, they are gifts. If I were to be born in another continent, country, town or even household, I may have turned out different. Who are we to judge our fellow man?



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