Monday, December 24, 2007

Why Should Only Italians or Frenchmen Be Known As Great Lovers?

A friend of mine remarked that Italian men are really romantic lovers. But why can't Chinese or Japanese be known as great lovers? What about Christians?

The thing is in the Asian cultures, we are meant to be conservative. And as a Christian there are boundaries in sex, but that doesn't mean we can't be great lovers.

I was reading "Song of Songs" the other day and realized that the first verse starts with "Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth..." Now everyone has different levels of comfort. Some people consider the first kiss as the moment of proposal, and some consider it morally fine for people dating to kiss.

But what I want to highlight is that Songs celebrates it by using the words: "lover" and "beloved". I don't want to be just a boyfriend or a husband. I want to be a LOVER. I've never ever met someone introduce his/her boyfriend or girlfriend or husband or wife with "this is my lover" or "this is my beloved". I think Christians should do that. A man can be boyfriend or a husband yet not be loving. But a lover? It goes against its definition.

I think also that Songs of Songs teaches that romantic love and the enrapturement of that feeling is also good. Sure, there is infatuation and true love, but romantic love is still a gift of God. Lovers should praise their beloved, telling them how beautiful they are and how they long for them.

Perhaps it still happens, but I can only guess at best it is done behind closed doors in an Asian culture. I think that couples should use more intimate terms to refer to their significant other especially in public. What I hate most (and this may offend some of my friends) is when they call each other with the terms "Mummy" and "Daddy", as if their identities and relationship with each other is referenced through their children.

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