Saturday, September 16, 2006

A Story To Tell

Perhaps one way in order to appreciate everyone around you is to understand their story.

Everyone has a story to tell, find out their story, find out their tale.

Everyone's story is unique, people may be at different stages of their stories, appreciate them, read their lives, and finally find out how to take part in their story.

Life is one big Show

Life is one big show.

As Shakespeare wrote, "All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players: They have their exits and their entrances;"

Woody Allen said this, "80% of success is showing up on time". I.e. show up on cue.

I wrote earlier that we don't wear clothes but costumes.

Psychologists have found out that successful people view themselves as the protagonist in life, not supporting actors.

The Bible says that we have a heavenly audience watching us.

As in storytelling as in life. The only way to progress in our story is to be active and to face up to conflict. Only when we face up to conflict can we resolve issues and progress further.

Tactics: Focus II

The overriding factor is that you should be doing something you enjoy doing and are good at doing (but see below).

There are clearly certain fields in which it is far easier to be successful than in others. There are also fields in which a moderate talent plus hard work will succeed, whereas in others a higher degre of natural talent is required. These are facts of life.

Most successful people do not seem to have selected carefully their field of endevour--that is no reason not to do this.

There is no stigma attached to changing fields, careers, or targets. Many successful people have done just this.

People contacts are extremely important (not what you know but who you know).

The ability to spot an opportunity when it is only a glimmer or a casual remark is very important. So is the ability to take action on that opportunity.

Unusual combination of skills and experience can be important, because there will be little competition in such areas.

In many fields credibility is the major asset.

For many successful people, the first step has been a partnership with someone else.

Moderate success can also be a trap if you are interested in greater success.

Difficult challenges are worth taking on if the elements involved are within your control. If they are not, you may be wasting your time.

You can always define your challenge for yourself.

Friday, September 15, 2006

Tactics: Focus I

Do not believe that more and more self-analysis is better and better.

The purpose of self-examination is to offer tentative perceptions, not dogmatic explanations.

It is useful to become aware of your personal style.

It is useful to become aware, in a realistic fashion, of your limitations, so long as they do not hereafter become an excuse.

It is useful to look for blocks and weaknesses in order to try to put them right.

If you take your personality apart, there is no guarantee that what comes together again will be an improvement.

Always leave enough of you unanalyzed so that this can carry out the analysis on the remainder.

Remember that analysis into component parts may destroy values that arise only from the whole.

Thursday, September 14, 2006

Tactics: How Far Is Success Within Our Control?

Whether it is true or not, assume that you have been equipped by genes and early environment for a particular style of success. That belief may make up for some of the actual deficiencies in either area.

Note that a key factor such as ambition, persistence, or stamina can energize all the other faculties you may have. See if there is within your make-up a 'drive' of this sort. Build it up and build on it.

Probably the most important factor is 'expectation'. This can be within your environment or within your mind as your 'self-image'. The notion is that success should be just as much part of your expecation of life as getting married and having children. If you are a parent, such expectation is the most important thing you can provide for your children. The expectations is that an individual can work toward success--not that success will be provided as of right.

Move to an environment which is success-oriented.

Keep and polish certain key images on which to build your style.

Trying to be someone else won't work, and it will ruin your own natural style, which is based on your own qualities.

Important lessons and strategies can be learned from the behaviour of others and then be incorporated into your own style.

Acting out a deliberate role in certain circumstances and for a limited time can be a useful strategy. It can be especially useful to overcome some basic deficiencies.

There is nothing wrong with artificial training provided it is pursued to the point where it becomes natural.

Some aspects of man are improved by digging deeper into the inner self (emotions and temperament), but other aspects are improved by moving in the opposite direction towards role models and manners.

Before a role has been learned well, there is always a difficult time when it works so badly that it is usually abandoned. The problem is to decide whether to persist with it or to abandon it.

Don't wait for the right place and timing to happen to you, but be sensitve to place and timing, and plant the right seed at the right time in the right spot.

Let People Make Mistakes

Sometimes, it is better to let people make mistakes.

It is easier for them to learn by themselves and suffer the pain (as long as it is non-fatal).

Some of the greatest lessons learnt are when we make mistakes. Then only do we change.

The only problem with that is when we do not change, and we keep on making the same mistakes over and over and over again.

These are God's lessons. We are sent to back to repeat the lesson before we can move to the next.

There is an adage that says "If we keep on doing the same things, we will keep on getting the same results." If we are satisfied with the results that we get then good for you.

But the problem with that is this, why are we satisfied with the results we are getting? Can things get any better? Can we imagine something even more better than what we have? If so, we must consider changing ourselves again and again, reinventing ourselves to adapt to the environment and changing conditions.

But again, as we continually change ourselves, we must expect to make mistakes along the way. Riding a bicycle can be painful but when it is over, there a reward of joy and freedom.

Monday, September 11, 2006

Tactics: What Stimulates Success

There probably is no such thing as a general-purpose motivation to be successful, so if you have such a motivation, convert it as quickly as possible into a choice of field and a direction. There can be a motivation to succeed at something in particular.

Motivation seems to be a natural part of the expectation and self-image of the successful person. Be positive and cultivate such an expectation. Expect to succeed.

Use and set challenges in order to have a specific focus.

Use anxieties in order to push yourself forward rather than to hold yourself back.

Do not use money as an end in itself but as the method of play in the game of success (at least one type of success).

If you do not enjoy making things happen, you should reconsider whether you want only the end-point of success (and what goes with it) or the process of getting there. If you only want the end-point, then forget it--unless you can find a way of getting there quickly.

If your own motivation is insufficient, then marry someone who can push you along.

Sunday, September 10, 2006

Lessons from the Bourne Supremacy


What's he doing? He's making his first mistake...


It's not a mistake.

They don't make mistakes. And they don't do random. There's always an objective, always a target.

If he's in Naples, on his own passport, there's a reason.

This is one of the lines that struck me watching "The Bourne Supremacy".

It shows that we must have a purpose, every moment we must think, what is my objective? What is my target? What am I trying to achieve?

Hone yourself to be like a supremely trained assassin. When you have found your purpose, make every moment count towards your objective.

Keep on thinking every moment, Do I know my target enough? How am I going to achieve my goals? What are the obstacles? How can I minimize the risk? What is my escape plan? What is my plan if things go wrong? Do I have the right equipment? Is the environment right to make my hit? Do I understand my quarry?