Saturday, July 01, 2006
Friday, June 30, 2006
There is also what we might call the urgency of laziness. This is an apparent paradox, for laziness and urgency would seem to be exact opposites. In practice, however, laziness can be a powerful spur to thought. This point is neatly made by Dr Nathan Kline: "I always try to do things the simplest way. And I think laziness is a virtue. If you have to get your work done and you're lazy, you'll find a better way to do it and one that requires less effort and time, so laziness is a virtue when you combine it with enough compulsiveness to be sure you get there."
Finally someone who has confirmed my thoughts about myself. Programmers are really lazy people. They want to do the work done with the least amount of effort. To take a simple example, some people may write 10 lines to go through an array but a clever and lazy programmer will write a loop to do the same thing with less effort.
Thursday, June 29, 2006
This book is struck a chord in me from the very first chapter which gives testimonials of people who struggled against fear and psychological programming instilled from the upbringing or environment. I learnt that we all struggle against this fear to ask for help, for assistance, for favours.
Here are my thoughts and how I relate it to other knowledge.
There is a seeming paradox in life that we have to reconcile. The book of James advises us not to ask with selfish motives, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't ask! Jesus said "Ask and it shall be given you."
We grow from dependency to independence. But independence isn't the end of the journey. Covey writes in his 7 Habits book that the next step is inter-dependency. And asking is the key to inter-dependency. It means that even though we are indenpendent persons, we are still part of a whole framework, a system and network of people that help one another.
Adler writes that most of us grow up with an inferiority complex. In fact, we all do. However, Christ says "All authority in heaven and earth has been given to me." With God on our side, who can be against us?
Ask, ask, ask, and ask.
Read the first few chapters of this book, after that you can skim through the advice given. It is filled with a lot of testimonials which you can skim through. Recognize the barriers and practise asking. Believe that you can have anything that you want.
The message in the book is good, just filled with too many examples. It could have been condensed to 1/3 of its size.
The extended entry provides a list of topics covered.
The 5 Barriers to Asking
- We don't know what is available and possible
- We don't know how to ask
- Limiting and Inaccurate Beliefs
- We are programmed by our parents
- We are programmed at school
- We are programmed by the media
- We are conditioned by religious training
- We are programmed by "experts"
- Limiting Beliefs
- If you really loved me, I wouldn't have to ask
- The world is not a responsive place
- My success will deprive someone else
- If I get what I want, it will make me unhappy
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of Looking Stupid
- Fear of Being Powerless
- Fear of Humiliation
- Fear of Punishment
- Fear of Abandonment
- Fear of Endless Obligation
- Happy to be wanted by anybody
- A feeling of unworthiness
- My needs are not important
- I am not worth it
- The fear that rejection will confirm some deep-seated core belief about myself.
- I'm afraid to appear less weak and needy.
- Fear that people will judge me for not already having it.
- We are programmed in pride.
- We are supposed to be able to figure it out by ourselves
7 Characteristics of Askers
- They know what they want.
- They believe they are worthy of receiving it.
- They believe they can get it.
- They are passionate about it.
- They take action in the face of fear.
- They learn from their experience.
- They are persistent.
Knowing What To Ask For
- Make a list of 101 wishes
- Clarify your vision
- Complete the perfect day fantasy
- Complete the "I Want" process
- Stretch Your Imagination
- Visualize your dream
- Create your dream
How To Ask
- Ask as if you expect to get it.
- Ask with a positive expectation
- See it the way you want it to be
- Ask with conviction
- Assume you can
- Ask someone who can give it to you
- Realize that some people aren't capable of delivering
- Ask someone whose business it is to know
- Ask people who are qualified and motivated to help
- Ask the experts
- Reconsider who is an expert
- Get the person's full attention
- Be clear and specific
- Be specific in your requests
- Be careful what you ask for
- Ask for what you want, not for what you don't want
- It is possible to be too specific
- Ask from your heart
- Ask with passion
- Ask with urgency and passion
- Ask with eye contact
- Ask in a kind voice
- Ask politely
- Ask with respect and admiration
- Ask with humour and creativity
- Ask with humour
- Ask creatively
- Give in order to get
- Give something to get something
- You have to give to get
- Give a gift
- Give compliments or praise
- Explain what's in it for them
- Tell your partner how it beneifts him or her
- Ask repeatedly
- Just say NEXT!
- Look forward to the no's
- Ask the same people again and again
- Be tenacious, persevere, never give up
- How to deal with resistance
- Don't lose your cool
- Don't create resistance
- Ask with authority and be prepared for a no
- A no may be a blessing in disguise
- Be gracious in accepting a no
- Don't burn your bridges.
Having a buffet breakfast may seem nice, but in the end you have to watch what you eat to prevent yourself from missing your weight goals. I'm trying to lose the 2 kilos I've gained since arriving here.
In the end, you start to gravitate to certain favourite foods in the menu and avoid others that you don't like.
The nice thing about these breakfasts are actually the little extra things they provide that don't really cost a lot.
What I like about breakfast at the Hilton:
Some sunflower seeds, dried figs, and fruit to sprinkle on your cereal, choice of low-fat, skim or full cream milk. Choice of coffee. tea, milo, hot-chocolate. Food that is kept warm and not cold. The waitress that greets you good-morning and ushers you to your table. Serving you your drink and asking you whether you want smoking or non-smoking.
Even though the listed price of the breakfast is RM40 you don't eat RM40 worth of food. You can't. The value is in the variety of choice that is available.
Which leads to some good business lessons. Just by offering a variety that doesn't really cost a lot, (because the customer can't eat everything) you create added value that allows you charge even more because of the perceived value.
It is these little things that make the difference between a 5-star hotel and a 4-star hotel.
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
This seems to be one of the most obvious questions to ask a blind man from Jesus, then why should he even ask it in the first place?
The thing about it is this, people need to ask what they want because people in life don't know what they want.
We need to know what we want.
In life, we have this vague idea of what we want. We go about life having desires but not really crystalizing our desires into expressions of need.
It reminds me of the movie "Bruce Almighty" which in the end showed that most people don't know what they really want.
Some people want to be rich. But how rich? A person with a scooter in Bangladesh is quite rich. A person with a car in Singapore is rich, but a person with a car in LA would be the norm.
We must be specific in our needs and desires and have self-knowledge of ourselves. Only then can we set about concrete steps to get what we want.
Your greatest asset is you.
What are you doing to improve yourself? What are you doing to increase your value?
Are you taking care of yourself?
Do you constantly take courses, or go for classes?
Are you getting enough rest and exercise? Are you eating right?
Are you building up and enhancing your reputation, creating a good name for yourself, or as accountants call it creating "goodwill" for yourself.
Tuesday, June 27, 2006
I found out that GT stands for Gran Turismo. That sort of identifies it for me from the games.
It's a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Because I won't be attending one of these events again. I found watching cars zoom by pretty boring.
But if you want to experience it, make sure you bring along your ear-plugs. They are LOUD!
I learned also that the GT event is actually two races in one. There are the GT300 cars (300hp) and the GT500 cards (500hp) that are racing at the same time. The 500 cars being the faster will have to overtake the 300 cars along the track.
After about 35 minutes of watching this race I took a break too look around for the umbrella girls.
You don't have to buy the pitpass (RM 100) to check them out. During the race they do come out into the main grandstand area and you can watch them on stage.
All in all, an interesting experience but not something I would go again. Perhaps the thing that adds value to it are the babes, because I can't for the sake of my life could enjoy seeing cars going round and round a track for 54 laps.
Monday, June 26, 2006
It seems very manipulative term but that is the goal of leadership and management to utilize the resources available including humans involved to achieve some kind of goal.