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July 28, 2006

Email Is A Bad Messenger

I hate email.

It's too insensitive, it doesn't convey enough tone, emotion or nuances.

Email is also slow. That person may or may not read that message in time. He or she may not want to reply immediately, or put it in his KIV folder and forget about it.

You don't get instant feedback. You don't see the persons expression upon reading his email.

It's impersonal, and a joke may be mis-interpreted as an afront, an order as a suggestion, a trivial matter as important and so on.

You don't know what is important or what is not. It's all just text in a sea of messages.

Don't forsake face-to-face communication for email. Even the phone is better than email.

I only check my email about 3 times a day. If someone wants something really urgent from me, just walk over to my cubicle and talk to me, or call me.

Talk to people. It builds rapport far better than email.

July 26, 2006

Article 11

So the inter-faith dialogue should be stopped because it touches on sensitive issues like religion.

Isn't that the whole purpose of the inter-faith dialogue? To reduce sensitivities and to build bridges!?! The Inter-Faith Dialogue does include parties representing Islam too. And yet, the religious power-mongers, want to hold on to their power.

It isn't muslims that are hurt because there are muslims in the inter-faith dialogue too. It is the power mongers that are hurt. They are afraid of losing their power and hold over people. Religion authority is also a form of power. That is why the Jews wanted to kill Jesus. Because they were afraid to lose power.

We should ask the government whether Malaysia should have gotten independence, I'm quite sure the British were hurt when Malaysia wanted independence.

And then there is this thing called the Anti-Inter-Faith Association. I cannot believe that there is actually an association dedicated to burning bridges and to stop efforts of harmonising and building relationships. Isn't Malaysia supposed to be an example of religious and racial harmony?

I would propose therefore to have an Anti-Anti-Inter-Faith Association because the Anti-Inter-Faith Association hurts my sensitivities.

July 25, 2006

I'm sick with the Flu

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Feeling sick. Down with the flu.

July 21, 2006

The One Minute Manager Meets The Monkey

If you feel you're doing the work of two people, tell your boss who they are and see to it he fires one of them.

Your job as a manager is to prepare your people under you so that you can delegate to them.

The only way to develop responsibility in people is to give them responsibility.

Indispensible managers can be harmful, not valuable, especially when they impede the work of others.


Individuals who think they are irreplaceable because they are indispensable tend to get replaced because of the harm they cause. Moreover, higher management cannot risk promoting people who are indispensable in their current jobs because they have not trained a successor.

Learning time-management, taking seminars only solve the symptoms of a problem not the root cause.

The problem is: monkeys.

A monkey is the next move.

A lot of times, a busy manager is busy because he is doing the staff's work! "Let me think about." "I'll get back to you on this." These statements remove responsibility for a task from a subordinate and places it on your shoulders!

One reason could be because of a "white knight" syndrome or a "do-gooder" syndrome where you think you are "helping your staff" or that you are the only one capable of "making important decisions".

Look at your job descriptions and decide whether it is yours or your staff's responsibility.

The more you take responsibility from others, the more they become dependent on you.

Learn to delegate monkeys properly.

For every monkey there are two parties involved: one to work it and one to supervise it.

When you assign people their monkeys, they are empowered to solve it.

Things not worth doing are not worth doing well. Some monkeys deserve to die. Ask yourself, why are you doing this?

Never let the company go down the drain simply for the sake of practicing good management.


SUMMARY OF ONCKEN'S FOUR RULES OF MONKEY MANAGEMENT

Rule 1: Describe the Monkey: The dialogue between the boss and subordinate must not end until appropriate "next moves" have been identified and specified.

Rationale:

When people realize that any dialogue will not end till next moves are specified, they will plan carefully when approaching you.

Next, it biases any situation toward action!

Finally, it gives you motivation by clarifying the situation, identifying the first step, and breaking it into bite-size pieces.

One person can won the project and another person can make the "next move".

Rule 2: Assign the Monkey: All monkeys shall be owned and handled at the lowest organizational level consistent with their welfare.

All monkeys must be handled at the lowest organizational level consistent with their welfare!

Staff have more time, energy and knowledge to handle monkeys.

Staff are closer to the work and are in better position to handle the monkey.

Keeping monkeys off your back is the only way to gain discretionary time.

Retain monkeys only you can handle.

Rule 3:

Insure the Monkey: Every monkey leaving your presence on the back of one of your people must be covered by one of two insurance policies:

  1. Recommend, Then Act
  2. Act, Then Advise

This balances your staffs need for freedom and your ability to control.

Level 1 is when there is a risk of an unaffordable mistake.

Level 2 is when you're sure that your staff can handle it on their own and inform you afterwards.

Aim to: Practice hands-off management as much as possible and hands-on management as much as necessary.

Rule 4: Check on the monkey: Proper follow-up means healthier monkeys. Every monkey should have a checkup appointment.

Checkups are to find opportunities to praise your staff.

As well as to make sure you monkeys are healthy and to take corrective action if necessary.

Minimize the number of scheduled checkups by scheduling as far as possible without interim checkups but either of you are free to check on each other if the need arises.

Staff should inform you when monkeys are sick. Don't wait till they are critically ill before being brought to you.

During checkups, even if nothing was done, still go ahead with the checkup to discuss why nothing was done.


The purpose of Oncken's rules are to make sure the right things get done the right way at the right time by the right people.

Delegation is not assigning. Assigning involves a single monkey; delegation involves a family of monkeys.

The purpose of coaching is to get into the position to delegate.

To get into the position of delegation:

I cannot delegate until my anxieties allow it. Be convinced that your subordinate can do it. If not use insurance policy 1: recommend, then act; or work with him not for him.

I can delegate if I am reasonably sure my people know what is to be done.

It would be foolish to delegate to someone without reasonable assurance that he or she can get sufficient resources--time, information, money, people, assistance, and authority--to do the work.

I cannot turn control of any project over to anyone until I am confident that the cost and timing and quantity and quality of the project will be acceptable.

The more commitment the greater the chance of success.

Working in an organization means time devoted for the boss, time for the system (administrative), and time for your subordinates. What is left over is discretionary time.

Discretionary time is the most important to an organization, because from it flows ideas and creativity that make a company better and improve itself. It is the Quadrant II time for yourself important but not urgent. Create more discretionary time for yourself, to help yourself and the company. Use it wisely.

July 20, 2006

Something Learned

After revising most of the One-Minute Manager series of books that I read like 15 years ago and taking my Project Management course, I realized this: That I've been learning management skills from untrained managers for most of my working life! (A lot of management skills and habits I learnt were actually bad habits.) And this makes me the bigger idiot!

(To digress, this shows why Maxwell's law of reproduction works. Work for great leaders, you learn their good habits and behaviour. Work for idiots, you learn their bad habits and behaviour. Therefore you have to make a conscious effort not to copy bad habits if you happen to work for one.)

The reason is that management is an entirely new skill altogether. Just because a person is good at doing his work, doesn't mean he is a good manager.

Unfortunately, the current world corporate and training environment doesn't teach or prepare people to be managers. It is a people skill. Programming or teaching are individual skills. But managing is the skill at handling people. It is getting things done through other people.

We teach technical skils in school. We teach business policies or systems. But do we teach people to learn how to build rapport? To be decisive? To be humble? To be understanding? To be wise? Is there a course for this in school?

If communication skills are 90% of a manager's work, why isn't stressed? Of course, the technical and hard skills are important.

In light of this, and since it is difficult for a single person to change a system I come to this conclusion: Learn the hard skills, the accounting, the finance, the programming, the organizational and systems training in school.

But make sure you develop your leadership, communication and soft skills. These are far more important in life, if it means 80% of your succes depends on this then make it your priority. You can always delegate accounting, programming, and secretarial work to far more competent people. But you cannot delegate responsibility and leadership.

July 19, 2006

There Must Be The Possibility of Failure

I'm taking one course every year to improve myself. Last year, I took a Diploma in Enterprise Development, basically an entreprenuership training course.

This year, I'm taking the Project Management Professional as well as salsa lessons.

I'm contemplating taking a course in Literature as well and taking an exam on it to motivate myself. This is to improve my story-telling skills and depth of acting ability.

Having an exam really motivates you.

In fact, there must be the real possibility of failure.

I've taken "sure-pass" courses before. And there just isn't the motivation in it to spur you on to pass and excel. One, because it doesn't make the course or exam serious enough. Secondly, an exam gives you a measure of how well you have done in your understanding and depth of knowledge.

True, an exam isn't perfect. Exams are actually very imperfect measures of knowledge. Warren Buffett for example, when he was temporary CEO of Salomon Brothers dreaded taking a compulsory exam for head of brokerage/financial firms. He kept putting it off until he could step-down. An exam could never do justice to measure the financial genius of the world's greatest investor.

There could never be an exam to measure entrepeneurial genius like Bill Gates or story-telling talent like Steven Spielberg. Their exams are the world stage, and the examiners are the public. And they too fail; Spielberg with Amistad, Empire of the Sun; Gates with Traf-O-Data and Windows 1.0.

What I'm trying to put across is that failure is actually something to be embraced, it is a good thing, it validates and gives value to our achievements, it spurs us on and provides feedback on where we have gone wrong.

Failure is just a stepping stone, it is just an event and likewise, so is success. Success too is for a moment. As Rudyard Kipling said, to paraphrase: Failure is an imposter, and so is success. It is the struggle and the development of ourselves that is far more important, though I must stress that if we are not achieving success, then something is wrong, perhaps our methods or our processes or focus or strategy. (Of course, you must then ask "What is success?" which is also a grand philosophical question.)

Life is an Exam

Each day is an exam.

Each day is a test.

If we fail to pass, we have to retake the test another day.

We cannot progress unless we learn the lesson of the day.

July 14, 2006

Biological vs. Mechanical

Perhaps one of the paradigms that we miss out from in this technology centric world is that many things behave like organisms rather than automatons.

Perhaps it is the onset of the industrial, mechanical and electronic revolution that gives the man of today the viewpoint that everything around it is some kind of machine or device that can be turned on and off producing a very utilitarian view of people and organizations.

I think that the biological viewpoint is just as important.

Jesus used a lot of natural biological parables in his teachings. The church and its people are likened to a vine. People are referred to as fish. The word of God is referred to as the seed sown in the hearts of man. God's kingdom is likened to a mustard plant.

Yes, but of course there are other non-biological examples too, a Christian is a lamp lit or like salt and so on.

But I believe that a biological viewpoint is very important too. The reason is that biological processes and the way you tend to plants are entirely different from a mechanical view.

In an electronic and industrial world, we just replace broken parts because it's not worth the time and cost to repair it.

But in the biological world, we can't flip on a switch. There must be patience, like a farmer or a shepherd takes care of his sheep. There is a time to wait, like a farmer waits for his harvest. We nurture, we tend, we graft, we feed.

People do not behave like a machines. Leave the machine on through the night and you get double the output. Try to have people work through the night, you may only get 50% extra output.

People are not machines, they too need tending. A seed is first put in a nursery so it can grow before it is planted. New employees should be tended and nurtured before weathering harsher weather.

Perhaps that is one of the reasons why there is too much burnout in a mechanically inclined city. People do not understand the paradigm of farming and harvest.

July 13, 2006

How Much?

How much food can you eat? Caviar, steak, truffles, chocolate, etc.

How many hours can you sleep?

How big a house do you need?

How many places to travel can you go?

How much anger can you hold?

How much power do you want?

How many movies can you watch?

How much music can you listen to?

There is only so much you can consume in life.

LIfe is not about consumption. It isn't about ourselves. It's about service.

July 10, 2006

World Cup Final

My final prediction for the tournament:

Italy 1 - France 1 (France win 3-1 aet)

July 9, 2006

Process vs Results

The thing about life is that we sometimes lose focus between process and results.

For example, you cannot focus on being happy. Because happiness is a by-product of service and love. Focusing on happiness will cause it to further elude you.

Another thing is profits. Profits are a side-effect of 3 factors, good management, fantastic customer service and a wonderful product. If you focus on these 3 things, the profits will come in.

However, it can go the other way.

For example, I say that prayer can do nothing. Neither can perseverence accomplish anything.

Prayer can do nothing if you're just focusing on the activity and not the subject of the prayer. There are many people who pray long prayers thinking God will hear them. But they focus on the activity not who they are praying to and the reason they are praying about. Prayer is a necessary "side-process" of seeking God.

Perseverence is also useless if it is not directed to the right activities. I've heard parents admonish their children to always "read books diligently". The activity of reading is useless if you don't achieve understanding at the end of 2 hours. Reading is also a necessary side effect of seeking understanding. "Oh look how many hours I've spent studying." It's not the hours, its what did you gain after that that is important...

World Cup 3rd Place Play-Off

My predictions for today:

Germany 2 - Portugal 0

July 8, 2006

7 Step Formula for Goal Setting

  1. Decide exactly what you want in a specific area and write it down clearly, in detail. Make it measurable and specific.
  2. Set a deadline for achievement of the goal. If it is a large goal, break it down into smaller parts and set sub-deadlines.
  3. Make a list of everything that you will have to do to achieve this goal. As you think of new items, add them to your list until it is complete.
  4. Organize your list of action steps into a plan. A plan is organized on the basis of two elements, priority and sequence.
  5. Identify the obstacles or limitations that might hold you back from achieving your goal, both in the situation and within yourself. Ask yourself, “Why have I not achieved this goal already?”

    Identify the most important constraint or limitation that is holding you back, and then focus on removing that obstacle. It could be a certain amount of money or a key resource. It could be an additional skill or habit that you need. It could be additional information you require. It could be the help or assistance of one or more people. Whatever it is, identify it clearly and go to work to eliminate it.
  6. Once you have determined your goal, developed your plan, and identified your major obstacle, immediately take action of some kind toward the achievement of your goal. Step out in faith. Do the first thing that comes to mind. But do something to start the process of goal attainment moving forward.
  7. Do something every day that moves you toward your most important goal. Make a habit of getting up each morning, planning your day, and then doing something, anything, that moves you at least one step closer to what is most important to you.
Download pdf.

July 7, 2006

When Pigs Fly

When will England ever win the world cup again?

Perhaps never?

Can this the begginning of a new phrase in the same vein as "When hell freezes over?"

How about:

  • When England win the world cup.
  • When Singapore qualify for the world cup.
  • When Malaysia qualify for the world cup.
  • When there is a Miss Saudi Arabia.
  • When the Ms. Universe competition is held in Saudi Arabia.
  • When article 153 of the Malaysian constitution is repealed.
  • When Mahathir praises Jews.
  • When Israel and Palestine stop fighting.

July 6, 2006

Here I Come To Save The Day!

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Supergirl
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Spider-Man
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Robin
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Iron Man
55%
Wonder Woman
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Batman
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Hulk
50%
The Flash
50%
Green Lantern
40%
Catwoman
35%
You are mild-mannered, good,
strong and you love to help others.
Click here to take the Superhero Personality Test

World Cup Semi Finals (2)

My prediction for today:

Portugal 1 - France 1 (France win 2-1 aet)

July 5, 2006

Why I Want To Be The Best

If you do not want to be the best you are implicitly setting a goal to be mediocre.

Is it putting pressure on me?

Not if I'm looking at the process not the goal.

I may not be the best at something. For example, I may take up tennis one day. Most probably I won't be an Agassi. But the goal is always to be the best in what I do. The only one you should compare yourself to is yourself. The Bible does allow one to be proud in the following way:-


If anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else, for each one should carry his own load. (Gal 6:3-5)

Why should I ever want to be mediocre in what I do? Live life to the fullest.

If I have to do sales, then be the best salesman, if it is in engineering be the best engineer, if it is in dance, be the best dancer.

It is a mind bent on excellence that thinks such things, don't confuse it with pride.

Carpe Diem.

Pride is when you think you are better than OTHERS. It is in the comparison with others that pride comes in. Someone told me the other day that wanting a million dollars is pride.

Okay then, how about wanting $1? Is that being proud? No?
Then what about $2? Then $3? Then $100? What about $1000? What about $10,000? At what point is wanting money pride? At the boundary of $999,999 and $1,000,000?

CS Lewis said that you know pride when someone is better than you. It doesn't matter whether you get $1 or a $1,000,000. If someone gets $2, and you feel envious then that's pride. Or if you get $10 and someone else gets $5 and you feel elevated, then that's pride. It is in the comparision not the amount.

In actual fact, in business, accountants will tell you that $1,000,000 is not a lot of money at all.

Money in business is used to measure progress. It tells you that you are serving people well. In the book "Business by the Book" by Kenneth Blanchard and Bill Hybels. Profit is defined as the applause given by customers that you serve.

People who believe they will be proud when they achieve the best fall into a trap.

They then do not set out to achieve the best fearing that by doing so they may sin and then live out their lives in mediocrity.

World Cup Semi Finals (1)

My prediction for today

Germany 0 - Italy 0 (Germany to win 4-2 on penalties)

Eat This

Food a person should eat regularly:

1. Red wine. (1-2 glasses a day). [Flavonoids]
2. Green tea. [Anti-Oxidant]
3. Dark Chocolate. [Flavonoids]
4. Garlic.
5. Fish. (4 times a week). [Omega-3 fatty acids]
6. Almonds.
7. Fruits. (daily)
8. Curry. (kills cancer cells in colon).
9. Cranberry Juice.
10. Olive oil.
11. Ginger.

July 4, 2006

Death By Meeting

This is a book about how to use meetings to their full advantage.

We don't really seem to understand meetings very well. How many times have you attended a boring meeting doodling in your notebook or having an out-of-body experience?

Patrick Lencioni uses the analogy of meetings to TV, movies and shows. In mass entertainment, people are enraptured and stay still intently watching yet not getting bored or sleepy at all.

What is the difference? Drama, conflict, characterization, pacing.

The author says that there are 2 basic problems.

One, that you must have proper focus for each meeting. There must be an inciting incident at the beginning of the meeting to focus the participants. In story-telling, the inciting incidents sets the premise of the movie. E.g. We have the problem of Jaws in the beginning of the movie terrorising the residents. How do we stop Jaws? Or we see a murder being commited, the question then is who did it? Or even how?

Secondly, we must have different types of meetings. We don't mix 5 minute news with 1/2 sitcoms or talk-shows or movies or mini-series. Each of these formats have different purposes and used to tell things differently.

In a nutshell the recommendations for having meetings is to have 4 different types of meetings.

Meeting Type 1: Headline News Brief
Name: The Daily Check-In
Length: 5 minutes
Recurrence: Beginning of each day.
Posture: Standing
Focus: What you're doing for the day.
Caveats: If you have nothing to say, it's a 15 second meeting. Challenge actually is to keep it to 5 minutes only.

Meeting Type 2: The Game Show
Name: The Weekly Tactical
Length: 45 mins (must be regular length)
Recurrence: Regularly each week, same time and day.
Posture: Seated
Focus: Tactical issues, no preplanned agenda, accomplishing goals for the week.
Agenda: Start with 60 second report on what you're working on that week.
Score what the organization is doing according to 4-6 key metrics.
Only after that do you create an agenda.
Resist the urge to go on some interesting/important conversation that has no real-impact on your ability to accomplish your near-term goals. Note them down and keep it for the strategic meetings.

Meeting Type 3: Movies
Name: The Monthly Strategic
Number of Topics: 1-3
Agenda: Yes
Focus: Strategic, prepared debate and discussion
Length: 2-3 hours (irregular length, may even last 5-6 hours)

Meeting Type 4: Mini-Series
Name: Quarterly Off-Site Review
Focus: Review everything. Strategy, morale, performance, etc.

July 3, 2006

Self-Leadership and the One-Minute Manager

"Cayla, I hope this isn't another dumb question. But what makes a question dumb? Obviously not all questions are dumb. In fact, I've always heard that there's no such thing as a dumb question."

"Smart question," Cayla said. "There are 3 types of dumb questions. One when the answer is obvious. Two, when you're not willing to hear a certain response. And three, when you already know what you want to hear."

"For example, Rhonda is running around with her head cut off, but you need some help. So you ask, 'Are you busy?' That's a dumb question. Of course she's busy! so she says something like, 'There just aren't enough hours in the day.' You feel guilty, so you get flustered and leave her alone so as not to add to her burden.

"It is better for you to just simply state your needs truthfully: 'Rhonda, I need 15 minutes of your time to discuss this project. If this isn't a good time, I can come back at 3 o'clock.'"

Steven couldn't deny that he often asked what appeared to be the dumb question instead of stating his needs directly. "What makes the 'I need' phrase so powerful?" he asked.

"When you tell someone you want something, their first thought is usually, We all want things we can't have. When you use the I need phrase, you're coming from a position of strength. You've thought about what it's going to take to succeed and are requesting a person's help. It's amazing, but human beings love to feel needed. They love to think they can help you. 'I need' is very compelling."

This book deals with using the situational leadership model first introduced in the book "Leadership and the One-Minute Manager" to yourself.

The situational needs model (pdf here) illustrates the different stages of development of a person undergoing the transition from learner to master.

The main points of this book are:

  • Challenge Assumed Constraints
  • Celebrate Points of Power
  • Collaborate for Success

Know at which stage you are in your development and take appropriate action to get direction, support or both.

Empowerment is something someone gives you. Self leadership is what you do to make it work.

An asumed constraint is a belief you have, based on past experience, that limits your current and future experiences.

Ultimately, it's in your own best interest to accept responsibility for getting what you need to succeed in the workplace.

Don't buy into the assumed constraint that position power is the only power that works.

The only way in which anyone can lead you is to restore to you the belief in your own guidance--Henry Miller.

Use your Points of Power:

  1. Position Power (the boss)
  2. Knowledge Power (technical, knowledge, know-how)
  3. Relationship Power (people skills, relatives)
  4. Personal Power (ability to give assurance to people and make them feel comfortable)
  5. Task Power (ability to do or not do something)

When goals work out, it is usually because you instinctively take the initiative to be a self-leader and get what you need to succeed.

There is magic in diagnosing your development level and getting the direction and support you need to achieve your goal.

The 2 most power words to collaborate for success are: "I NEED"

A leader is anyone who can give you the support and direction you need to achieve your goal.

July 1, 2006

World Cup Quarter Finals (2)

My predictions for today:

England 1 - Portugal 2 (even though I'm an England supporter)
Brazil 2 - France 0

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