Thursday, November 17, 2005

Life Is A Dance

"No life can escape being blown about
by the winds of change and chance
and though you never know all the steps
you must learn to join the dance"

"Through Heaven's Eyes" (Soundtrack from Prince Of Egypt)

We aren't thought often that life is a dance. We are taught what we must do, what we must contribute. How to behave.

But not many of us are thought that life is a dance. That there are rhythms and beats to life.

There are seasons in the year, there is the 24-hour rhythm to a day, there is the monthly lunar cycle.

It is reflected in our physiology, but also in our relationships.

In dance, you can learn leadership. Especially in dances with pairs. We don't get taught how to dance in church, unless you believe that the "charismatic shuffle" is all you have to learn or jumping up and down to a disco rock beat.

In fact, there are many facets and subtleties that I'm learning from my salsa class that I'm taking.

For example, there is a leadership and follower role. You cannot have both the man and the woman doing the leading. One must be the leader and the other the follower. Having two independent beings wanting their own way cannot lead to harmonious dancing.

The man must for example be the strong one, he must provide the frame for the lady to lean back. He must lead the way and provide the cues for the lady to move in tandem with him, as well as watch out for other couples that may bump into him. But that does not mean the man doesn't follow the woman. At times, like when there is a spin or twirl he must follow the lady.

In dance, there are also subtle feedback given through thumb signals and the like. That is also a part of leading either in a group or in a marriage. Both must give each other feedback in order to dance well.

The couple must also not knock their knees into each other or step on one another's toes. When one wants to move forward, the other move backwards. The guys arms must be lifted high enough to prevent his elbows blocking her when she wants to spin, yet not too high that it is tiring for her arm.

The author is now currently taking salsa classes at Two Left Feet Dance Studio.

Wednesday, November 16, 2005

You're Only Borrowing Sleep

I've learned that you can't really work longer one day and hope to be alert the next day.

If you keep on doing that on an ongoing basis, you're depriving yourself of much needed sleep.

And you'll pay for it. There will be such thing as microsleep, where you doze of for 5-8 seconds at a go when your body tries to compensate for lack of sleep.

The real solution if you find you have too much work is really to manage your time and if you really have too much work that you find yourself staying longer and longer at work is the following


  1. Save time by making decisions quicker.

  2. Get things done on immediately instead of delaying it.

  3. If it's not important, don't do it.

  4. Finally, delegate.